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Tell me I'm not going mad

13 replies

ScottishTulip · 31/12/2023 16:02

Hi - My husband thinks I'm being dramatic so I'm asking for general opinion.

He has just gotten up at 2.45pm. We have a sick autistic son. Because I said I wasn't happy he got up at 2.45pm I've been told I'm having my "daily moan."

I've said that if he asks his friends, they will tell him that their wives would have alot more to say than me.

Opinions please. His reason is that he just went to bed late, but I think I do have a right to express an opinion. I didn't shout or anything like that. I was very calm, but I do feel I have the right to express an opinion than being shut down and told I constantly moan.

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festivetinseling · 31/12/2023 16:10

Well tell him that if he doesn't want you to moan every day, then he needs to get his shit together and stop being such an arse.

Polly271220 · 31/12/2023 16:13

What a twat....so I guess its your turn tomorrow for a 245pm get up whilst he takes charge!

Mmhmmn · 31/12/2023 16:14

2.45 is very late. Is he doing it as avoidance?

sprigatito · 31/12/2023 16:17

Who does the lazy bastard think should be looking after his children and running the household while he suppurates in bed all day? I would get him out of bed early on some spurious pretext (someone at the door for him? Kitchen flooded?) and go out for the day.

Seaoftroubles · 31/12/2023 16:35

Unless you have prior plans l would make sure he's awake early tomorrow to look after your son and then take yourself out. A bit of shopping, a nice lunch then home by 2.45. Fairs fair!

Pamspeople · 31/12/2023 16:50

Definitely take yourself out for the day tomorrow or the very next day that suits you. Why on earth does he think it's acceptable to hide in bed until mid afternoon when he has a family?

Staniam · 31/12/2023 17:51

He's a selfish arse who is gaslighting you.

huuskymam · 31/12/2023 17:54

He's a lazy shit. My dh would go to work for 10pm, home for 5.30am and still managed to get out of the bed before noon.

Tusktusk · 31/12/2023 17:58

You are not going mad.

OldTinHat · 31/12/2023 18:01

You're not being dramatic.

Tell him he can sleep in to whatever time he likes, every single day of the week, because you're kicking him out for being a lazy, inconsiderate shite.

AllAroundMyCat · 31/12/2023 20:27

He is not parenting.
Give him a wake up call or tell him to jog on.

PurpleBugz · 31/12/2023 20:48

Yup I say he's gaslighting you. 2.45 is not ok when you have a child to care for. He's basically saying your child is your responsibility that it's you who has to make all sacrifices and he gets to live like he has no kids.

If it's a one off I'd let it go this time. If it's not a one off I'd be ensuring I go out and leave him to parent some days. Fair is fair. I'm parent to a high needs autistic kiddo and it's hard work I would bet he stayed in bed to get out of parenting

EmporiumHawkins · 31/12/2023 20:48

why did he go to bed late ? @ScottishTulip

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