Partner left yesterday morning - Please help!

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Brooke E(9)
30/12/2023 at 7:58 pm
Hey!

So, my partner left yesterday morning and took all his belongings with him. Said his goodbyes to our little one, and off he went. All because I called him a "twit" for shutting me down when I was trying to tell him something, he then called me me stupid, and then I told him "If you carry on being like that, you can go alone to the new house". I don't see anything wrong with standing up for myself? I'm second guessing everything.

THE MAIN PANIC - We we're supposed to move out of our current property on the 10th into our new rental. I've given official notice etc, and a he has already paid a holding deposit, and was going to pay the remaining deposit and month in hand when we collected the keys. He's sold my car. He's walked out. He's told the agency we aren't going ahead with the property, so that's been withdrawn. Now.. what do I do 😭 I have 11 days. Am i legally allowed to withdraw the notice? Everywhere im reading up on it states I can't. I just feel helpless and lost. I have a 2 year old, and just feel so lost.

Well the first thing you should do is contact the letting agents / landlord and ask them if you can withdraw the notice as your plans have changed.

Whether or not you can legally withdraw the notice I am not sure. You can ask on the legal advice forum.

@B9r0kre - that’s awful. Your partner sounds like a bully and a sh1t dad. Talk to your current landlord and your new landlord. Explain what has happened and that your situation has radically changed. The notice may be legally binding but the landlords can still decide not to insist on performance or agree a compromise with you.

If you need to leave your current home, do you have family you can stay with?

It's obvious he moved because of other reasons besides this tbh .

That said ,sometimes we learn that what we say in the moment can have consequences of a life time . You had a plan what you suggested that he could love on his own (which he did as you suggested ) ?

Tbh if I was you I would contact the landlord and explain the situation and see if you can stay . He is a bit of a D tbh because I wouldn't do as my child needs a home besides what is going on with my partner

@B9r0kre why did you let him sell your car? did you give him permission?? do you work and can you afford the rent on your current place?? your ex sounds really childish but it sounds more like he wanted out anyway. he must have had somewhere else to go to. can you move back to your parents house for support?

I’m guessing your not in the uk, maybe say where you are so you can get more local advice to you. You’ll get lots of advice here but most of it will be uk based.

good luck to you tho, he sounds like a dick

Contact landlord and letting agent. If you want to move and can afford on your own, tell the letting agent that you intend to go ahead without him. You may have to work out how you are going to refund his part of the deposit to him.

Landlord may at least be sympathetic and allow you some more time to find somewhere/move out, even if they still want you out. It likely will depend on if they have the next tenants lined up yet, and on when they need to move out of their previous place by.

If neither of the properties is still an option, the letting agent should be able to help you to find somewhere else quickly. That is their job, ultimately. However, if all this only happened yesterday, it is unlikely that the new place has been re-let yet unless they had a waiting list for it.

Why has he sold your car? Did you give permission for that? If not, call the police.

I do think you need to prepare yourself for the next discussion with him though. I highly doubt he left because you called him a twit on one occasion. Either you are in denial about what had been happening in the lead-up to that argument, or he has his own stuff going on that you have been ignoring or oblivious to.

1. Priority contact existing landlord and see if you can stay? Or have they already let it out?

1. Contact new landlords and see if any options there.

1. Who bought the car and who's name was it under ? Where is the cash from that ?

1. Are you married ?

1. Do you work ?

Hard to give practical help from the post as there's more details about the argument then facts that can give practical advice. But for the record he was already planning on leaving if that's all it took and if not you probably shouldn't have been so flippant about ending the relationship.