Just for a bit of background I have long struggled with my MH which seems worse than ever recently so I tried to talk to my mum about some of what I think has contributed to this. I was calm and not confrontational but I just didn't feel heard at all.
I talked about how unkind things that family members said to me when I was younger always related to my weight. This was sort of acknowledged but apparently was only occasionally said so shouldn't have had this impact on me. What I remember was an almost constant when these family were around. Then there was the backhanded compliments, never just a you look nice always with the added if only attachment. After I had said how this had affected how I view myself and do now to this day her response was she was disappointed in me for refusing to get braces.
I just felt so defeated so have worked myself up to having that conversation and just get nothing back.