Partners sweat

[AllieDeCorbeau]

Hi, first post.

I recently started seeing a guy. I love having him over. We get along. we're at a really good stage a few months in. but at night he sweats. And it leaves an odor on the bedding. It's not altogether unpleasant. But it's definitely noticeable. He sleeps with two duvets wrapped around him. I sleep with one and a leg out.

my question is if anybody has any ideas that will prevent me from having to wash the sheets every week? I can't exactly ask him to stop sweating. but if there's any really good sprays or a type of bedding that can help with this I'm open to suggestions.

Get him to wear pj's when at yours? Will help to absorb the sweat. You viuld get him a nice pair as a gift since you've noticed he likes it warm...

Two duvets is quite excessive. Has he said he is cold?

Sleep over at his place? Save your sheets!

One of my exes used to sweat like a beast during the night, so I feel your pain. However, I always change my sheets at least once a week anyways, even if it's just been me in it all week. I change them more frequently if my partner has been sleeping over a lot. I just like a fresh bed really.

I think less than weekly would not be very fresh even without sweat?
If you have money to spare you might have sheets made of fabrics that absorb better or have a cooling effect or something like that, but I've never tried any myself so don't know how good they are.
I would definitely stick with 100% cotton over anything synthetic at the least though, as I think synthetic stuff would make the sweating and odours worse.

Can you get a sheet between him and the duvets so you don't need to wash the duvet covers? Then depending how much he stays at yours put the sheet on just when he is there and maybe even a different sheet on the bottom, so whilst you'll be putting sheets on and off each time you won't need to wash them.

Why does he sleep with two?

I have Hyperhidrosis (from my scalp & face mostly ) and this is why I'm single! People think it's disgusting. The thing is, sweat only smells if it's been left for a while. Fresh sweat doesn't smell. Sounds like the sheets aren't being washed thoroughly enough. Put some regular pine disinfectant in the washing machine (yes, you absolutely can do this, the bottles even have directions for laundry on them!)
I sweat during the day AND at night. Since I've been using disinfectant in my wash, the sheets haven't smelt at all

If he sweats a lot in one particular area you could always try using puppy pads or ones for bedwetters but it depends how well he reacts to that

my question is if anybody has any ideas that will prevent me from having to wash the sheets every week?

Why wouldn't you change your sheets every week anyway? Even if it's just you.

Can you afford to launder the bedding as often as is necessary? If so, I'd suggest you just do that. You haven't said you find it offensive in any way, just that you want to avoid washing the bedding every week. I think offering a "solution" to the man might be mildly offensive to him or awkward for him, and not worth it if you don't even mind the sweating in itself.

The exception is the suggestion to buy him some pyjamas to wear, which would just come across as thoughtful of you. But does he already wear pyjamas to bed?

I'd recommend a wool quilt, a bit pricey but was just commenting to my partner the other day it's made a real difference to night time sweating and I've not felt the need to wash the sheets as regularly too. Mine was from soak and sleep

My DP sweats quite a bit as well. I fold the covers back first in the morning so the sheets can dry out properly and use an antibacterial spray on his side of the bed. Helps us to limp along for a few more days if necessary.

My DH has this problem too. And to be honest, you need to wash the sheets regularly. If not it discolours too and becomes really smelly and unpleasant. Definitely 100% cotton bedding.

My only tip is that I use Halo Sports Wash to wash all his stuff (he quite sporty too) including the bedding. Nothing gets the smell of sweat out better than that stuff.

@LonelynSad, I'm sorry to hear to suffer from this and it has such a huge impact on your life. I'm interested in your tip about the pine disinfectant. Could you tell me exactly what you use please, how much you use and where you put it (in the drawer or direct in the drum)?

This would completely give me the ick and that would be the end of him sleeping in my bed.

@CoffeeChocolateWine Just supermarket own brand cheap disinfectant or Dettol pine disinfectant! People don't realise that it's the exact same active ingredient as Dettol laundry wash! It costs a fraction of the price, too.
2 capfuls in the drawer with the detergent or as a pre wash in the prewash detergent section of the drawer.

You can use the antiseptic stuff too but not necessary. Any like the ones in the photos attached are sufficient. The Asda one is only 33p a bottle!

The Asda one that's 33p a bottle!

Tip: Also great for adding to doggie bath water when they're particularly muddy! Only a tiny amount though of course

Thanks

I hope your partner is more understanding when you hit the menopause!

I’m post menopausal. Multiple chronic health issues. Dh and I have been together 15 years. If he or I suddenly started sweating a lot we’d try to sort it out (and we have - I’m on HRT, he’s had all sort of other issues etc) but it’s perfectly okay to say it’s very off putting from an intimacy point of view or a sharing a bed point of view!