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The worst year emotionally

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AlwaysWearSPF · 30/12/2023 11:42

I want to go away in January, I have a four month old baby boy and it will be just me and him.

I've had quite a year which all began in June. We received some news that our baby who was unborn at the time was measuring small the femur was on the 5th centile and was a marker that they use. Abnormalities and Down syndrome was discussed to me and my husband. We left both very confused and frightened for our unborn child's health. That evening we had an argument and I left to stay with my friend for the evening.

I ended up staying for 3 days at my friends and on the third day I learnt that my husband had left the country, he went to Thailand without even letting me know. I was 30 weeks pregnant at the time, he took our wedding money which friends and family members contributed towards. Slept with a sex worker, spent all our money then came home.

Then on Boxing Day my husband decided to bite my face during an episode of exchanged words. We were both saying horrible things nothing nasty just stupid stuff like "Leave me alone I'm honestly tired of your constant mood changes." Then he went on to say something like I'm tired of you...then I said well you know what to do. Then he just jumped on me, (I was in bed) held my face and bit my cheek.

We haven't spoken since then, he left the home I have no idea where he is and quite frankly I don't care.

What I do care about is my mental state and caring for a new born. I want to go away with my little boy for a week, I've just never traveled anywhere alone with a baby. I'm looking at holidays and some are in Turkey and Morocco. I'm a little worried to be seen as a woman on her own with a baby. Ideally I'd like somewhere hot a nice family run place where me and my son can enjoy some time, go swimming and just get away from everything for a bit.

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AlwaysWearSPF · 30/12/2023 16:29

So we are going to Fuerteventura in two weeks! All inclusive, insurance done spoke to a lovely lady who got me a lovely discount still £££ but under £1000.

Little nervous travelling with a new born I'm sure once I organise myself it will be lovely. Thank you all for the recommendations.

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thehistorymum · 30/12/2023 16:40

Have a wonderful time OP!

AlwaysWearSPF · 30/12/2023 16:40

Latewinter · 30/12/2023 16:29

Somewhere in Italy? It's such a great place to travel with kids very pro-child culture and people were very kind to our 2 year old.

My family are from Italy and there's a rift between the members which makes it hard to go there because if I stay at my aunties my cousin will be upset and vice versa. Silly really my father had a family home there which was ours to use when we wanted, unfortunately it got destroyed in the 2016 earthquake.

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AlwaysWearSPF · 30/12/2023 16:41

thehistorymum · 30/12/2023 16:40

Have a wonderful time OP!

Thank you xxx

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honeyfox · 30/12/2023 16:44

Fuerteventura is beautiful, safe and quiet, I've been several times. I hope you have a lovely holiday after everything you've been through x

AlwaysWearSPF · 30/12/2023 16:47

honeyfox · 30/12/2023 16:44

Fuerteventura is beautiful, safe and quiet, I've been several times. I hope you have a lovely holiday after everything you've been through x

Thank you so much xxx

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dancingsands · 30/12/2023 17:30

Please report to police

AlwaysWearSPF · 30/12/2023 17:35

dancingsands · 30/12/2023 17:30

Please report to police

I honestly don't need the added stress of SS in my life. I'm in a fragile place and having that on top will not benefit my family. He's not threatening nor will he come back he knows he's made a huge mistake and it can't be fixed.
Now I have to think about my financial burden, how I'm going to return to work and what conditions if any in the future for him having access to his son.

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JemOfAWoman · 30/12/2023 17:37

AlwaysWearSPF · 30/12/2023 15:10

Canary Islands in January are in the £1000's Malta is reasonable at £600 all inclusive. Never been to Malta would you say that it's a safe place to take a young baby?

Malta is lovely- very safe and if you are near the capital lots of places to mooch around.

Anewnamejustforthis · 30/12/2023 20:30

Have a very lovely time @AlwaysWearSPF my son is older than yours but when it's just the two of us on holiday we always have the best time - be sure to plan a mix of stuff and down time so you both get the R and R you need and deserve xx

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