Hand hold for saying goodbye

[Christmas1981]

Thank you to the lovely people who commented on my post where I spoke about how loved ones think my partner is a narcassist.

I am meant to meet with him tomorrow for a dinner that we keep rearranging because of his moods and it's making me so anxious.

I want to text him to cancel and then block him everywhere. Every time I start telling him my boundaries or try end it, he guilts me and I always fold so I simply need to send a simple message and block.

I'm talking myself out of it. He will twist it to everyone and play the victim.

How long have you been together? If that’s how you feel, just do it. You will eventually feel relief.

We've been together on and off for a year. He has unfortunately left me a couple of times in that year but when I have recently tried to end things, he plays victim (also points out what I have done wrong) and I end up taking him back

You need to build stronger boundaries and just end it. You don’t need to meet him. Just write a message and then block. Why does it matter what anyone else thinks?

But it doesn't even make sense - if you've also done things "wrong " in the relationship and are somehow the bad guy - that isn't a reason to stay together, it just means the relationship is even worse?!

Anyway, sounds like a good idea to call off the meal and have done with it.

You don't have to explain yourself, and you don't need a reason he agrees with to end the relationship. Splitting up isn't a debate, it's an announcement - only one person needs to want it.

I hope you are doing okay?

He can play victim all he wants, but you've already said that your loved ones think he's a narcissist, so they will be glad, regardless of what he says.
You don't even live together, this should be easy, just block and don't even think about what he is or isn't saying, it's not your concern.