Hello everyone, I'm kind of clutching at straws here as the saying goes, and I'm after others advice.
So I've been in a relationship with a guy for 5 months now, but feels like longer as we speak so much. Rewind back to the start when I first started seeing him and he would come to mine but not stay the night and just go which used to really upset me as I worried he was after one thing. Fast forward now I know this isn't the truth be isn't just with me for just that. However the sleeping thing is really getting to me, he's tried sleeping at mine and he just says he doesn't sleep at all which then plays on his mood and he says he can explain why and that he's just always been this way and has been even in past relationships. He said he's only comfortable sleeping in his own house.
It worries me as I don't know the real reason behind this, I hope it's the truth and now I'm contemplating how I'm ever going to have a future with this guy? We are both adults and are at a point in our lives we want to settle down, have had previous relationships and have 2 children each to our ex partners so we both have a good head on our shoulders I just keep asking myself..."how is this ever going to work"?
I'm someone who loves cuddling and affection and to spending the night with someone in bed is massive and brings two people closer, but how are we ever going to be able to do this when he struggles and won't. I have spoke to him about this and he says it's not me it's him and he doesn't know why he's like that he said he gets the same feeling when in a hotel or abroad and even struggles on planes during long journeys.
I have said to him this morning that I worry we just won't see eachother much or he will not want to spend time with me as he's always going to think about the way he gets and that's putting that barrier up straight away with me.
Honestly what I'm wondering is does anyone else think it's something more to it or that he's being honest and do you think it's salvageable as I really really do like this Man and don't want this to cause an ending between us.