trapped by controlling husband

[longpathtohappiness]

We have been together 30 years, on reflection maybe got together too young. I feel like I'm constantly walking on eggshells. We had a massive row over Christmas due to me trying to keep everyone happy including DH which was never going to work. I try and smooth things over to keep the waters still.

sounds ghastly

do you have a job Op?

Sounds awful.
In what way do you feel trapped ?

What do you do for a living?

You shouldn't have to live like this and it's not normal.

you also need to accept his behaviour is very very unlikely / won't change. My father actually did make some changes for the better but ONLY after my mother left him and I have no doubt he would have returned to form if she'd been mad enough to go back to him.

What do you want to happen?

Are you asking how you can leave?

Do you have children? Are they adults or still at home?

What's keeping you there? You've got the rest of your life, get out now and start living a normal life.

Do you have your own income? What do you want to happen? You need to think it through and then talk to him. If he won't hear you or compromise then you have an answer and can plan accordingly. Life is too damn short to spend it with someone who makes you unhappy.