Just a wee rant

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Ex H doesn’t buy his two teenage kids birthday or Xmas cards anymore. They get gifts but never a card. It didn’t really bother me until he took our eldest into the shops to pick out a card for two lots of his family members so that she could post it from herself and her sister. So he thinks of other family members but not his own kids. They don’t seem fussed by the way but is it normal for some dads to just not bother? He also dropped a comment to them asking if he had to pay for the cards for them to give to me! Of course he said was joking 🙄 yes I made sure cards were bought for him from both of them.

Just a wee rant really. Pointless asking him as he tends to not answer messages from me anymore as he knows this annoys me yet he is the type who will send a ? If I don’t reply after an hour to one of his messages.

I kind of think people buying cards is dying out. My sister received quite a lot of cards but didn’t send any out other than buying for immediate family. I know lots of my friends just send a message now and say they’ve donated to charity instead.
Would the children keep the cards or would they just go in the bin after Christmas? If they don’t see it as a big deal then I’d move on from it. You got a card from your children and that’s what matters to you.

The not replying thing is different and annoying. I would just take my time responding unless a message needs a quick reply.

I totally get that cards are dying out, I only send to some family now where I used to send heaps. For me it’s the fact that he took her to buy a couple of cards for some of his family as he knew they’d love to receive one, but to not think his daughters would like to receive one too. I’ll not be reminding them to buy for him anymore. What’s good for one is good for the other and all that.

I do tend to keep some special cards for them, have done since they were born, I think it’s nice to have a few physical things in a folder from your childhood to look back at.