My in laws make me feel claustrophobic. Started when we got engaged in 2018- they were just really overbearing. Had to put in some boundaries very politely, which went as well as it could, yet, having just told them we are expecting a baby, I'm getting these same feelings again.I'm terrified of what their expectations might be. I make much effort with the relationship but MIL is really serious, always making comments about not seeing us enough, is really intense and I just feel that underneath she hates that I've put boundaries in place and wishes he'd married the girl next door rather than me perhaps. My biggest fear is that I'm just going to lose it with MIL one day (she very much oversteps the mark at times). I struggle to contain my emotions around her at times. I'm aware that one of my SILs also struggles with her. The third SIL is super compliant and does everything MIL wants. Does anyone else get these kind of feelings and how do you not let it get to you? How do you accept them for what they are and not let it get to you? I struggle to embrace them and feel overwhelmed and panicky when I think about them.