We don't seem to be talking much now!!

[McDreamy]

I started a thread a couple of days ago about how whenever I try and talk to DH about me (not very often) he always brings it back to him. For example, I told him the other day that I had had a boring day and was thinking about volunteering in DD's class once a week to hear the children read....what did he think to which he replied something like he couldn't comment on someone who had a boring day as his days are soooooo busy at work.

Our conversations are increasingly becoming like this. Scorpio said she sometimes sings "it's all about you" but do you know what if I sang that I would be continously singing it.

Anyway communication has slowly decreased over the weekend and now we don't seem to be talking much. If I go and talk to him now it's going to deteriorate like it always does into a "woe is me" conversation. Don't know what to do or say

sorry to hear this mcdreamy.

can you 'create' something to get you talking? kind of neutral?

maybe once the kids are in bed pull out some old photo albums and get him talking about good times in them etc? and then say 'oh i love it when we chat?' positive reinforcement kind of thing?

hmm have been trying this all day and it's all been a bit cool!

Maybe he's just not in a very talkative mood right now? Perhaps by respecting this and backing off and giving him some spcae he might then start talking again? There isn't much point in trying to force someone to talk to you.

Obviously I don't know the whole situation though, whether this is a phase or he's always like this, so my advice may not be appropriate.

It's never nice when you try to talk to someone about you and they turn it onto themselves though, I do sympathise. Some people only seem to know how to communicate by relating things back to hemselves.

Can't talk to him now anyway coz Dancing on Ice is on!!

Seriously though, yes maybe you are right lettng him have his space might be the thing to do. I'm sure it will be ok I just don't know how to handle it when he becomes the martyr - again!!

We are moving back to the UK in a few months and he is going to be in a job that will keep him away from home a couple of nights a week and he feels that this is going to be so hard for him, very difficult, which I acknowledge but he doesn't seem to think it will be much of a challenge for me at home with the children.