My MIL lost her husband 9 years ago and my DH is struggling with her and she puts on him and expects him to jump when she says.. he is very sweet, hospitable and looks after her very well.. helps her, does things for her, buys her whatever she needs..
he said he feels guilty she is on her own..
she has caused some dramas between us and is very expectant of him to look after her..
I must admit I’m struggling and it’s coming between us..
he keeps saying that his dad’s last words were “don’t leave your mum on her own”
shes had a few friends and family live with her but she drives them away.. control freak!
she doesn’t like me at all and has made that quite clear, mostly when DH is not in the same room!
how do I deal? I am respectful and will have brief chat but I don’t engage much, she doesn’t engage with myself or our son, her grandchild.. I think she maybe depressed..
I'm guessing DH needs to deal with the guilt he feels?? And understand he is not responsible for her life.. she wants constant celebrations - her birthday, Christmas on her terms, her anniversary, her sisters coming to stay.. I’m tired of it, it’s overbearing..