So I’m buying a new family home, the plan is that it’s initially for me & my kids. Then DP and his son (who don’t live with us) will move in a bit further down the line. DP has no money to put into it, all his equity is tied up in an investment flat we co-own and rent out. My issue is that he’s just told his son (age 8) that we’re pooling our resources to buy a big place together where we can all live and he showed him the house online. (I’mbuying it not the two of us, though we’ll share utility/upkeep bills etc). I haven’t told my kids (age 8 & 6) yet the plan about eventual blending, I feel they’re not ready for it. So they are thinking of it as a new home for me and them only as that’s what it will initially be.
DP and I have been together two years and have managed things gradually with the kids, we have actually only recently told them all we’re together. We did meet up with kids sometimes but acted as friends in front of them. My DP has never even stayed over at my place before.
My DP justified to me that he said this to his son so his DS would feel like it’s his home too, and not just that he’s moving into my house. But we’re not even planning for them to move in just yet. And the sale hasn’t even reached completion.
I do want them to feel like it’s their home when they eventually move in, so need to square that with the fact that I really feel atm that it’s my money, my house etc…
Thoughts?