Namechanged for this.
DP and I have been together for 4 years. I have a DS who is 11. DS and DP get on fine but I wouldn’t say they’re close. DS’ father is very involved and sees him 3/4 times a week so DP isn’t in the step dad role. We have been on holidays as a family of 3 and DP has seen my ds once/twice for 4 and a half years. He is kind to DS and cares about his wellbeing but he is very mum my DP rather than DP’s step dad if that makes sense? DS likes DP as well.
We have finally purchased a house together and moved in 3 weeks ago. Things are going well but I feel like DP is slightly struggling with the change of going from a flat for 1 person (albeit with me being there 3 nights a week) to a 4 bed house living full time with 2 others. DP works from home and has been used to having lazy mornings in basic silence whereas now he has us both getting ready, usual noises in the morning etc.
I suffer a lot from anxiety and feel like I cannot relax. I asked DP today how he was feeling and he admitted he felt overwhelmed but assured me he is happy and that things just take time
I don’t really know what I’m asking but maybe just some reassurance that this is normal? As I say nothing has happened, things are fine and DS is absolutely no trouble but I just worry that DP is hating his ‘new life’ and then feel guilty on DS that I feel this way if that makes sense?