Heartbroken over best mum friend moving away

[koalabearboombox]

I've known her for 3 years and she's only moving 3 hours away but I feel absolutely devastated. I'm so sad I won't be able to do last minute coffees / dinners / play dates with her anymore, gutted I won't get to play an active role in her kids growing up, sad about the fact she'll most likely replace me with new mum friends where she's moving and make life memories without me. I know I can visit but it just feels like such a loss. I'd lived here for 5 years and really struggled to make friends before she came along, I really felt like I'd struck gold when we clicked so well.

I've been here with past best friends (including my closest who moved a long-haul plane ride away and ghosted me) so this is probably why I'm having such an emotional reaction. I feel like I'm going through a breakup.

Any advice for how to get through this? Practical tips and words of reassurance welcome.

This happened to me too!
It actually did feel like heartbreak, I really feel for you, it's horrible.
But think about what you've learnt from her, this friendship has shown you that it IS possible to meet people that you can click with.
And it will free up a space in your life for something/someone else. I know ideally you'd prefer that space to be her but circumstances arnt allowing that, so try to remain positive and open minded. Sending, warmth to you, I know it's a hard pain to deal with

Thank you so much @crostini it's so reassuring to know others have experienced this and felt the same way. I am used to friends leaving but something about her and time she entered my life / role she has played is making it really painful. But that is a really nice way of looking at it - it frees up space for something or someone else. I really want to try and cultivate that kind of optimistic mindset rather than just being sad.

@koalabearboombox I know this is an old thread but I’m going through something very similar, I’ve been looking for anyone to through the same! Just wondered how it all went, did that awful heartbroken feeling last a while? Do you still see her?

@PenelopeSkye sorry you're going through the same - she moved in Jan so has been gone for almost 10 months. We still speak all day everyday and I've been to stay with her, we've continued to meet up quite a bit although now she's getting to know more people in the local area that's slowing down. I haven't really found a replacement for her but just getting used to it really!