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Nusuy · 27/12/2023 12:23

A friend messaged me on Christmas Day saying she is worried about the UK going into recession. She then leaves a voice message asking if I can host an event for her as she can't do it. The event is in February and she has not even advertised it yet.

I felt quite angry as she can't even switch off on Christmas Day and is not respecting my time. All I do is send a Merry Christmas message to all my friends in the morning and leave them to it as they are with their families and I don't expect them to reply. Though some friends send Christmas wishes first. I spend time with my family too. She is a Christian and celebrates Christmas and had a family meal so it is not like she doesn't celebrate it. I replied back saying I don't respond to day to day issues on Christmas Day and Boxing Day. She responded on Boxing Day saying can I let her know as soon as possible.

On Christmas Eve she said she would rather be job hunting than spend time with her sister's mother in law. Anyone else get this hassle? Just seems like people can't switch off and want Christmas to be out of the way. I just feel she does not respect others at Christmas just because she is unhappy.

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triballeader · 27/12/2023 12:35

Erm….my husband as a priest works flat out during advent and Christmas Day itself but even he would not be pushing for new church events to begin to be planned until after Epiphany.

You can, and IMHO should, say no to hosting this event very firmly and if need be repeatedly. She wants to do it she can sort all of it. You are not her answer to all the behind the scenes event planning, liability insurance, funding and all.

Bestyearever2024 · 27/12/2023 12:37

Please do NOT host this event

SeulementUneFois · 27/12/2023 12:39

Bestyearever2024 · 27/12/2023 12:37

Please do NOT host this event

This OP.
Don't let her treat you like a doormat.

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