Is it normal to block out all the good things?

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My ex husband is abusive. All I can think about is the negative things. My mind won't allow me to think of any good times we had. It's filled with negativity. Is this normal?

I don't want to think of the good times by the way - it's just something I've noticed. It's like any happy memories have all been locked away or I can't remember them at all

Normal for me

Yes, it's a sign of your very good mental health and boundaries. Your internal systems are preventing you from finding reasons to consider returning to him.

This is a healthy thing.

I've always had this with relationships.

It has always protected me from feeling any sadness about ending it with someone. I'd take it as a good thing!

Thank you everyone, I'll take it as a positive then!

When we separated, I wasn't crying over the good times we had. I suppose that's because he was always so horrible that i was always trying to figure out what the hell was going on instead of anything else.

I suppose it's puts a huge knock on the 'good times' anyway doesn't it? As they can't be real if someone also has the potential to be so nasty.