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Original poster

why did he just dissapear again?

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Elliebb57 · 26/12/2023 21:39

I really dont get what happened, we've been together 12 years , ok it hasnt always been good, we have split up a few times ,2020 he blocked me and decided to get back in touch 2 months later, i think he met someone, so we started seeing each other and 2022 he ghosted me, that came out of nowhere, we didnt have a fall out or no argument, he just stopped contact, again he appeared 3 months later and now 1st of november he just woke up ,went to work and said he lost something and blamed me , said id stolen off him and dont call again, admittedly i have reached out and no reply, absolutely nothing from him, what i dont get is if im a so called thief and he wants nothing to do with me then why is he keeping my number, i told him to delete it if hes serious he wants me out of his life for good, but he wont do it, i know this cos i can see him on wattapp..I think hes toxic.

OP posts:
monkina · 26/12/2023 22:07

sounds like a lot of drama.

mayorofcasterbridge · 26/12/2023 22:11

Of course he's toxic! Grab some shred of self-respect and get rid of him for good.

category12 · 26/12/2023 22:13

Stop taking him back.

FuckityFuckBollocks · 26/12/2023 22:15

Is he seeing other people during the ghostings? Is he coming back to you when it goes wrong?

Regardless, you obviously need to be rid of him for good. He doesn’t love you.

Olika · 26/12/2023 22:31

I cannot believe you have wasted 12 years with him. Time to stop for good.

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Elliebb57 · 26/12/2023 22:50

yes most probably is seeing other women, and most probably again now, hes not man enough to say, 59 years old and still seeking attention

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StrawberryWater · 26/12/2023 22:52

Elliebb57 · 26/12/2023 22:50

yes most probably is seeing other women, and most probably again now, hes not man enough to say, 59 years old and still seeking attention

And yet you keep giving it to him.

Block and forget his number.

scoobydoo1971 · 26/12/2023 23:15

Forget about why he doesn't block your number. We all know you are his fallback when life in his fantasy world doesn't go according to plan. What you should be asking is why you haven't blocked him? Stop wasting your life on a man who shows you no respect and is flaky and inconsistent. Being single is nice and stress-free compared to being dangled and tortured by a user.

SusanKennedyshouldLTB · 26/12/2023 23:18

Elliebb57 · 26/12/2023 22:50

yes most probably is seeing other women, and most probably again now, hes not man enough to say, 59 years old and still seeking attention

But you are allowing him to waltz in and out of your life treating you like garbage. You need to improve your self respect and block him on everything then delete his numbet.

festivetinseling · 26/12/2023 23:19

Do not waste another precious day of your life on this git.

poppitypop1 · 26/12/2023 23:21

You don't treat people you like or love the way he is treating you. He is only doing this because you're allowing it. You're worth better.

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