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bathmatshowermat · 26/12/2023 20:15

Long story, I'll try to summarise. In October, my mother was staying with me. She adores my DD. I hadn't sorted her out with the wifi, which was an error on my part. I thought she was using data, she didn't really say she needed it, just that she was waiting for her doctor to call. She thought she needed wifi for this I think. I was busy with work and life, and it turns out she was upset but didn't tell me, or better still, ask me for the wifi set up.

I walked in on her, on loud speaker, so my 3 year old could hear everything, on the phone to her friend, who was calling me a nasty, nasty girl. That I didn't know how good I had it with her coming to look after my daughter. My mother agreed, and said, well I'm only here for DGD.

I was upset, she said she'd felt very cut off without Internet. I apologised for this but don't understand why she didn't ask me for it. Things are still strained for me, and I just don't really want to see her. But she adores my DD and my DD adores her. She's barely apologised, she just wants to pretend nothing happened. I saw her today for lunch but it didn't feel good for me. I still feel upset.

She's an odd person. Lies about things. Very very tight with money. She's a very loving grandmother and was a good mother growing up, on balance. Acted very badly in the divorce with my dad. Wwyd?

OP posts:
LisaFrom1986 · 26/12/2023 22:11

Sorry this is causing you upset.
could you maybe sit and talk to her about it? If it’s feeling awkward maybe ask if there’s anything upsetting her and it may start a conversation so you can say how you’ve been feeling.
I think communication is key here and your feelings need to be heard x

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