Married 30 years. Recently found out that spouse has been unfaithful (not full sex) in several different ways over last 20 years while at the same time proclaiming love for me. Retired. Do not want to leave my home but he's really getting on my nerves because of this and I feel the whole lot has been complete bollocks. Feel gaslighted. Trying to live as housemates. Having counselling. Got my own life back. Hoping to have another room extension so I can live even more as a singleton. However as we age we are useful to each other and will look after each other if needed so staying together for that purpose seems the most sensible. Anyone done/ thought about a similar way of living when the love has passed?