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Female Proposing (Leap Year approaching)

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PeekABoo22 · 26/12/2023 18:59

Have any women here proposed to their boyfriend? Did your BF mind being proposed to? How was it perceived by others?

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TyneTeas · 26/12/2023 19:06

Women are free to propose at any time

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PeekABoo22 · 26/12/2023 19:11

@TyneTeas did you read my post or just read the title? 😅

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Pablothepalm · 26/12/2023 19:11

Go for it. I did. He said yes.
Then cried with happiness and said „we‘ll do it properly with a ring“. 3 years on we are married but ultimately he wanted to propose. No issues with it. He’s an amazing husband and pulls his weight but he said yes and still wanted to do it himself 😂

TyneTeas · 26/12/2023 19:30

I read both, don't see why it would be so rare a thing, or something that anyone would mind

SunshineAndFizz · 26/12/2023 19:45

Have you spoken about marriage with him? Does he want to? Why hasn't he proposed to you yet (if you know)?

harerunner · 26/12/2023 19:59

Proposing should only ever be the romantic theatre done after you've talked about the future and marriage in conversation, and know that you're both the same page.

AGirlWithAHandOnHerArm · 26/12/2023 20:02

I woke up on 29th February 2008 and decided to propose to my boyfriend of 9 years - I literally decided on that morning to do it that night (it was not pre-planned).

By coincidence, we had dinner arranged that night (it was a Friday) with my sister, her boyfriend, and our friends, the girl of which worked in a jewellery shop. I asked her to get me a man’s replica wedding ring to borrow.

So I did actually present a ring (needed to do this as felt he wouldn’t take me seriously) but I didn’t get down on one knee or anything weird like that 😂. He was shocked but happy and said yes, thought it was cool to be asked on leap day.

It will be our 15th wedding anniversary next year!

I do have my own engagement ring by the way, he gave me his nans vintage diamond ring and when I turned 40, he presented me with an eternity ring, ironically from the same friend that worked at the jewellery shop all those years before….!

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PeekABoo22 · 26/12/2023 20:29

@TyneTeas as it happens, I don't know anyone who has done it so it's fairly rare to me, hence why I have come here to ask if anyone has done it and how it went!!

Yes the future talk has happened, we both know we want to get married to each other, we have discussed what kind of wedding we want, we've lived together for a long time. I'm not really sure why it hasn't happened yet. I think life kind of got in the way there for a while, things were going on in our personal lives that wouldn't have seemed like good timing for a proposal.

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Didimum · 26/12/2023 20:48

My mum proposed to my dad on a leap year. I planned to propose to my boyfriend on leap year also as I thought it would make a nice tradition – had a scavenger hunt planned and everything. Unfortunately he beat me to it 2 months before. Though I still did the scavenger hunt on the 29th Feb and told him what I’d had planned.

Pablothepalm · 26/12/2023 23:09

I put glow in the dark stickers above our bed. I‘m so corny 🤪

I didn’t really tell my friends but I felt all of them would support me in whatever I do. Egging my ex‘ house to proposing - good friends are friends after all. I don’t think there any stigma attached to a female asking. I truly believe that the only regrets you have when you die are the things you didn’t do. Good luck!! 💕🍀

CharmedCult · 26/12/2023 23:25

Yes the future talk has happened, we both know we want to get married to each other, we have discussed what kind of wedding we want, we've lived together for a long time.

Then surely a ‘proposal’ is just theatre?

I get it if you want a ‘proposal story’, but really all you need to do now is agree a date and get it booked.

Lizzieregina · 26/12/2023 23:27

I did, kind of joking, and we’ve been married for 36.5 years.

harerunner · 27/12/2023 06:44

CharmedCult · 26/12/2023 23:25

Yes the future talk has happened, we both know we want to get married to each other, we have discussed what kind of wedding we want, we've lived together for a long time.

Then surely a ‘proposal’ is just theatre?

I get it if you want a ‘proposal story’, but really all you need to do now is agree a date and get it booked.

Exactly. Personally I couldn't be done with all the over-thinking, over-analysing and agonising for months involved in making something official that has, to all intents and purposes already been agreed... all for some "insta-perfect" romantic moment to wow your friends and family with. It all seems so contrived and artificial.... but maybe I'm just a cynical 47 yo curmudgeon 😂

MistletoeandJd · 27/12/2023 07:09

Mine has asked me to " please not take that away from him" 🤣🤣

But we are at that weird stage where its been long decided we will get married I'd be happy just popping off to the registry office but he wants to do the actual proposal thing and then get married within months after. My 2nd marriage but his first so he wants to do all the bells and tassles.

Waiting for

  1. Divorce 🙈
  2. House sale
MistletoeandJd · 27/12/2023 07:12

Bet male valentines proposals will be on the up this year though would very interesting to see that data

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PeekABoo22 · 27/12/2023 08:14

Thanks all! Great to hear such positive experiences 😊

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