Hi,
I am writing here, because I have nobody else to talk to and ask for advise. I have been married for 27 years, and my mother in law always hated me. I think it is because I am a foreigner and they are English.
She is always very interfering, calling my husband 10 times a day and asks every single detail about our finances. She gets very annoyed if we buy something new or if we are doing well financially. She is very wealthy, but she doesn't like me to have good things. In fact she has been pestering my husband to sell our house, because she thinks it is too big for us.
She always invites herself around, without asking me. My husband just goes along with it, and tells me not to take her so seriously.
She is extremely unpleasant and never smiles, she always stares at me, in a preditory way making me feel uneasy.
She once screamed "I hate her! I hate her!" at a Christmas dinner at her house because I was quiet and did not give her a long answer when she asked me a question.
She acts like I am not in the room when she talks to people, but she always stares in a really malicious way.
She once hit me, when we were at her summer house in Spain. I really regret not reporting it to the police. this was years ago.
My husband does nothing to defend me, I think because he doesn't want her to cut him out from his inheritance. Her daughter is also really nasty, they start shouting and being aggressive if you try to confront them.
MIL sometimes put on a display of fake crying, to make me look like a villain. I was never disrespectful to her, ever. But I sometimes chose not to go to her gatherings. because it is very painful for me. She is extremely arrogant and selfish. I think she is also racist even though she claims to be a socialist. She is obnoxious and rude, and I think everybody around her is just there because she is rich and they want to use her summerhouse and get free meals.
I cannot stand it anymore. I am really really affected and my mental health is suffering. My husband still sees her, and he never confronted her about her treatment of me. Thank you for listening.