He’s moving out after Christmas. Any good stories post separation

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Just as above. He’s gone in a week. I’m absolutely in a heap. Even though it’s the best thing.
I wonder am I ever going to be happy again. Even though there’s not much happiness in this marriage. And will I always be lonely? Even though I know logically I couldn’t be lonelier than I am with him.

From experience, it will be great. New adventures, new friends, new experiences...plus occasional moments of crushing loneliness....but mostly great and so worth it. Give yourself time, go easy on yourself.

You will be happy again. And it'll be a happiness you relish, as you fought for it.

This next bit is a slog as you work out the practicalities of the separation. Take one step at a time.

Your day in the sun will come.

You will be happy. Definitely. Once the shock and sadness goes. And it will. As you say, the worst loneliness is when you are lonely in a bad relationship.

(My exH walked out on Boxing Day morning unexpectedly 17 years ago, leaving me with 3 small DC. It was awful at the time but in retrospect, the best thing that could have happened.)

Take your time, don’t expect everything to be amazing instantly but things will get better. All the best.

You'll suddenly remember the things you used to do. The foods you used to like cooking before he moaned. The early coffee in bed before the DCs are awake. The music you like. The TV you watched before he criticised it.

The freedom to decorate in colours you like. To go to the theatre or the cinema or for a run without anyone taking the mick. Friends you can invite over without putting him in a bad mood.

Take it a day at a time, and you'll get there. xx

Thank you everyone.
I don’t know why I keep fixating on never meeting anyone. I’m nearly 50. This wasn’t the plan.
single.

There are plenty of men out there! I've got three - a man, an ex who doesn't want to be an ex, and a third admirer who'd quite like to be closer but never will be. I'm 72! Find a nice pub where they do the kind of live music you like and become a regular. You'll soon find nice, friendly, helpful, single men!

I got divorced at 50 , very very happily re married 56 after 2 years together. So yes happy years are waiting for you 🙌 my neighbour 54 got divorced a year ago … her feet haven’t touched the floor! She is very happy with a fab bloke … you have all the best bits to come 💐

You're focussing on it because you have some insecurity, like the rest of us. Never forget: You ROCK.

Merry Christmas.

Here: To say to anyone considering LTB… http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/4969718-to-say-to-anyone-considering-ltb?msgid=-4969718#-4969718