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DP on Tinder

10 replies

EasterBun23 · 25/12/2023 00:07

What would you do if you picked up your bf's phone to check who was phoning him and you saw the tinder icon at the top of the phone meaning a notification?

my mum and dad are coming to stay tomorrow .

Do i kick off and ruin xmas for everyone or pretend i didn't see it and carry on until afterwards?

OP posts:
Bobbybobbins · 25/12/2023 00:11

That's a tough one OP! I can see why you could do either tbh, sorry not much help. What a dick!

VioletPickles · 25/12/2023 00:12

I’d not be able to keep it to myself. Perhaps there is an innocent explanation? How long have you been together?

Moveoverdarlin · 25/12/2023 00:15

I would do a bit more digging, try and find him Tinder, read his messages etc, then confront him after Christmas.

Opentooffers · 25/12/2023 00:21

Do your parents like him, or would they be just as happy to see you on your own after kicking him out? Might be worth sorting it beforehand if you think he would go without too much hassle, then have your parents for support. Depends on the dynamics really.

butterbean67 · 25/12/2023 05:34

I wouldn’t be able to contain myself if my parents weren’t there yet I’d be asking him to show me the tinder app and what he’d been doing on there. If he wouldn’t show me he’d be kicked out and the relationship would be over.
If your parents aren’t there yet then why not find out. If he’s not there when they get there you can even say he’s had a family emergency or some rubbish if you don’t want them knowing the truth.

I just wouldn’t be able to go to bed next to someone who was probably actively cheating on me, Christmas or not.

ZekeZeke · 25/12/2023 05:48

How long are you together?
Was he on dating apps previously and is this how you met?
Is it a case he didn't delete the app?
Has he given you any reason to mistrust him?

I would ask for to borrow his phone and ask him directly why he is getting messages and gauge his reaction.

Rosiiee · 25/12/2023 05:53

Yeah ask to borrow his phone and try to see a bit more about the messages/app. Then I’d confront him about it. F*ck Christmas. If he’s cheating then ruining Xmas is on him, not on you!

Prettyinred · 25/12/2023 12:20

Try and stomach it until after Christmas and then kick the fucker out

Psychoticbreak · 25/12/2023 20:14

Honestly I would cut his balls off, fry them in garlic and chilli (cos im not a psychopath) and feed them to the fucker as his dinner.

Burntouted · 25/12/2023 22:58

Why are you checking his phone in the first place??

If this isn't his first time being inappropriate, nor your first time discovering things and checking his phone...

Why do you stay and continue putting up with this??

If this is the first time, and you decide to check his phone more, if you discover inappropriate behavior...are you leaving?

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