is there still hope

[TLV]

hi
some of you may know my situation, dh walked out oct 07, relationship broken down, filed for divorce was adamant it was over, lots of gone inbetween (see horrid relate thread) anyway he put divorce on hold.
well last night he came over, told me that there was still a chance for us and that he still had feelings for more, that we did have problems and he was feeling guilty over dd and we needed to continue with counselling however he wasn't making any promises, thought i would feel over the moon when he told me all this but strangely i didnt, any views?

ps we then had a take out and watched dvd reason i'm so is that when i have asked him over he was insistent that he didn't want to come over.

Sorry this might be an inapporpriate response but I read your post and heard an old song in my head, have you ever heard Beautiful South's 'I had a little time'?

I need a little time
To think it over
I need a little space
Just on my own
I need a little time
To find my freedom
I need a little...

Funny how quick the milk turns sour
Isn't it, isn't it
Your face has been looking like that for hours
Hasn't it, hasn't it
Promises, promises turn to dust
Wedding bells just turn to rust
Trust into mistrust

I need a little room
To find myself
I need a little space
To work it out
I need a little room
All alone
I need a little...

You need a little room for your big head
Don't you, don't you
You need a little space for a thousand beds
Won't you, won't you
Lips that promise - fear the worst
Tongue so sharp - the bubble burst
Just into unjust

I've had a little time
To find the truth
Now I've had a little room
To check what's wrong
I've had a little time
And I still love you
I've had a little...

You had a little time
And you had a little fun
Didn't you, didn't you
While you had yours
Do you think I had none
Do you, do you
The Freedom that you wanted bad
Is yours for good
I hope you're glad
Sad into unsad

I had a little time
To think it over
Had a little room
To work it out
I found a little courage
To call it off

I've had a little time
I've had a little time

youtube.com/watch?v=ttuA1UEUAI0

all i can say is follow your heart,do you feel he is playing mind games with you ?

twiglet,i love that song and it says it all really

Twig is right - he's exerting power over you. If you really want to work things out then take it a little at a time. Don't let him walk all over you - start by getting him to take dd out for the day once a week and maybe pop in to see her on his way home from work.

hmm, he seems to be under the impression this is all about him doesn't he?

Sounds like you're not sure whether you want to try to make it work anymore so why don't you tell him you need some time to decide whether you think the relationship is worth fighting for.

no i really don't think its mind games, initially he was so sure it was over, made very sure that he never said anything that would give me false hope so thats why i think what he said last night was quite a big thing, on the other hand i agree that he is somewhat making it all about him which its not its about all of us, i've got to live my own life through this without hanging around, he has dd on sundays and is coming over in the week.