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How to survive Christmas

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Meow13 · 23/12/2023 19:06

Hi
I am absolutely broken and no idea how to survive the next 10 days. My husband of 20 years has had an affair and left me. I'm at family home with my 2 teens and really struggling. Teens don't want him at Christmas but he keeps hassling to see them all the time. I'm frightened about my future as I have been typical SAHM then work part-time so he can get on with his career. Him and his new women earn 6 figures each and I am going to struggle.

Struggling with trying to keep up with our family traditions and having to do everything for Xmas such as present buying and the dinner. I'm so upset and really just want to forget about the whole thing. Please tell me how to get through it!

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gotmychristmasmiracle · 23/12/2023 19:50

Gosh that's a tough one op. Atleast you are married so entitled to half pension etc, you could probably do with some legal advice about how to move forward financially which will help you feel abit better about the situation. Sorry you're having to go through all this over Christmas what a . One day at a time and keeping busy may help you get through to the new year Xxx

Whataretheodds · 23/12/2023 19:54

Firstly, you don't have to have him int the house - if the kids do want to see him then he can take then out somewhere (I know legally he can come to the house but you can say something like "you'll appreciate that it's not appropriate for you to come and hang out here at this point".

Secondly when it comes to present buying, if it's not already bought then don't stress about it before Christmas day. Wrapping and traditions- enlist the kids. See what it's important for them to keep and get them to get involved. If you find it helpful to buy everything ready made, or just have picky stuff then do.

rockingbird · 23/12/2023 20:00

How very nice of him to drop that bomb so near to Christmas! Try not to panic, it's just one day - sounds like your children are old enough to appreciate the stress your probably feeling and will likely not give a hoot what they get as long as you guys are OK. I'd tell him to keep his distance, clear out the bank account (if your able) and seek legal advice as soon as your able after Christmas.

BackOfTheCart · 23/12/2023 22:31

I have total empathy with this and I’m so sorry you are going through it. My ex decided to move out a week before Christmas last year. My kids were younger than yours though.
You will get through it… seek legal advise. I’m in the throes of sorting finances at the moment.

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