Impossible to talk to DH

[Letsgetalandrover]

I don’t know if anyone else has this but I am becoming really frustrated with the fact I can’t talk to DH or share worries because he just starts joking.

So as an example I was saying I thought I needed to do more reading with DS and was wondering how and when to best fit it into the day. I said something like he doesn’t tend to sit at the library, DH ‘jokes’ that maybe he doesn’t like particular kids (library is part of a school.) Stupid example. I just shut up and carried on. I very time I try to discuss something serious or semi serious I get these sort of jokey brushed off things. Is anyone the same?

My ex was like this. It was like he was allergic to taking anything seriously, or being sincere.

Do the things you muse aloud on or try to get DH involved in generally actually require his input? Does he make light of or gloss over them because he doesn’t think they do? You thinking about how you were going to fit reading with DS into your day doesn’t necessarily sound like something he’d think warranted particular investment from him - and actually, him suggesting that he doesn’t like doing it at the library because he doesn’t like the other children there doesn’t sound like a particularly stupid point.

One of the more useful things I learned in terms of a professional development sense was being able to distinguish between and also convey which things which should be of mutual importance and which things, really, were only important to me; rather than get frustrated that other people weren’t taking the things I thought were important seriously enough.

It was a deliberately stupid point @ComtesseDeSpair , I get you’d have to know the library. Anyway it isn’t just that. It’s every time I try to talk about something. It makes me feel a bit stupid. As it is if I follow your post I’d basically just be parenting alone and it goes feel like that sometimes. What’s frustrating is when he wants to talk about something serious it needs slavish devotion even if I’m in the middle of something else.