AIBU pissed off all his friends are young/childless

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Ok.
So I'm probably just being a jealous cow but me and my DH are in our 40s with 3 primary age kids. He never used to really go out but on the last year he's made a big group of friends from people he works with.
They are all young( early 20s) and childless. I have no issue with that but it's how he reacts. He wants to go out alot with them, go out all day drinking, etc etc and he seems to forget he has kids? I get he should go out sometimes but he did do it all pre kids but now he has responsibilities. I also work nights so barely see him when I'm working so I can't work out if I'm being a jealous controlling wife. He says he should be able to do stuff when he wants. He's also ALWAYS texting them when I'm with him ( and it's not just one person so he's not cheating or anything) but it's so irritating, oh and he's always buying them stuff to take to work, always talking about them. It's bloody boring

I'm.single, no kids and no responsibilities, apart from.to.my job, and I can't always do things when I want.

Mid life crisis? Why is he always buying them stuff? Do they buy him stuff? It kind of sounds like they're using him to be honest.

Ask him if you can do stuff whenever you want!

Does he not come off a bit tragic and try-hard hanging around with a group 20 years younger than him?

YANBU - my DH in his 40s still likes to think he’s in his 20s and hang out drinking with his friends- I hate it as I either become a sole lonely parent most weekends or I’m the evil nah who won’t let him go out. Told my DH I’m not attracted to 20 year old boys so stop acting like one …. I’ve got no solution for you just solidarity that his attitude towards family stinks

I dunno they seem to think he's great, inviting him round there houses, telling him how support he is ( I feel like they are talking about someone else 🤣🤣🤣)

Oh shit I'm sorry this is happening to you too. My husband says I should just go out too but I don't see the kids much due to school/work so kinda want to spend my nights off with them

Oh dear. Well he needs to deal with the fact he’s at a different life stage and that he no longer has that flexibility! The truth hurts, but maybe he needs to hear it put bluntly. He’s a 40 something husband and father with pre-existing responsibilities!

I think it's fair to have a compromise. So once a week or fortnightly he goes out on a weekend. Then other than that only after kids are in bed and being alert and able to get up the next day.