Controlling behaviour

[Ashleyupnorth]

I am here looking for some external support and advice please.on this situation with DH. I realised a short while ago I have spent quite a few years with DH being emotionally and financially abused (I won't discuss here as too outing to mention the context). This has got better since I set some boundaries but I am concerned still about DH controlling behaviour particularly with DD. When DD does not do as she is told (she is a teenager so sometimes will do things on her timescale). DH will turn off her devices so she does not have access to them and be very manipulative.A result of this means DD will just sit in her room. She doesn't engage well with us, could just be the teenager thing but I feel hurt every day by the way DH talks to myself and my DD. I am not sure what to do. I have emotionally shut down from him after how poorly I was treated by him.

I think he’s treating your daughter awfully and it’s your job to protect her. I’d be having stern words with him, agree on a punishment, and if he doesn’t stick to it then I’d end it. I hope your DD sees that the problem is him, and she doesn’t assume you’re both in it together, or it will damage your relationship.

You need to get rid of him. Don’t subject your daughter to anymore of his abuse. She’ll end up with a man just like him as she’ll think it’s normal.
She should feel happy, safe and respected in her own home.

You need to split up with him and get her out of this environment.

Time to show her this isn't the way men should treat their partners or families.