Do I text first?

[Lilllypad11]

Long story short. My colleague has been away from work since last Friday. Which is quite unlike them. Last Friday they had a rather large meeting involving hr. They already told me what it was about but I didn’t pry too much as I know it’s not something I can ask about.

Anyway, the last messages on the chat were from me. Just saying “god tomorrows going to be hectic. Spoke to Sandra she had a good old moan about the changes coming in.” No reply to that.

So…I’m a bit unsure, do I reach out with a hope you’re alright. Or just leave it and let them come forward? Plus they’re on holiday too so I hate the idea of intruding.

Why don't you send a text wishing seasons greetings or something quite benign and non-work related. It is polite without being intrusive. If the person has a problem they wish to share, s/he may use your message as an opportunity to discuss. If they are feeling low or dealing with drama, it can be nice to know someone is thinking of that at the very least.

I feel really bad for them. I know their MH isn’t great so that’s why they just go off grid. I know they’re going on a holiday then I get worried I’m being intrusive.

Send them a message - " Hope you're having a nice break and that all is well. Have a Happy Christmas and hope to catch up soon"

I don't know if you would normally meet up out of work?

I'd probably ignore a message about work too if I was off work. Just send a seasons greetings message and keep anything work related out of your chat for now in case work is the reason she's off.

Messaging her isn't intrusive unless you're drilling her for information/gossip.

I'd send a voice note so they can hear in your voice that you're thinking of them but not wanting to be nosy. Typed out it would all sound intense! But axquick voice note would just sound caring and sincere

I'd rather send a message to check they're okay and risk being OTT, than not send one & find out things really aren't okay.

As PP said, just keep it light but let them know you're here if they want to chat, but look forward to catching up in the NY. Have a great holiday etc...

I’d send a light text to check they’re ok. You never know what might’ve happened.

if they're on a holiday, they might just to forget all about work and be compartmentalising so you asking how they are might bring them back with a bump.

I'd send a Xmas message only.

Will “sorry was meaning to text you earlier in the week. Hope alls well, have a great Xmas break” be ok sorry I’m really anxious

That' text's fine. Just send it.