Hi
I'm new to these forums so I apologise if I'm down with the lingo. I could do with a bit of advice
Me and my husband have been together since we were 15. We have had our ups and downs but majority get on fine. We have a teenager and a 3 year old.
. He is a good worker but it is like it's his life. He lives to work rather than works to live. Over the last few years I have become less of a priority. I work part time and do mostly everything including the kids. Worse is that my son has mentioned that dad isn't present anymore.
I feel that he doesn't love me anymore as a partner. There's a few things that make me feel this way and I'm open and have previously said to him that his lack of effort makes me feel unwanted with him apologising and saying he will make an effort
For example...
We've just done the Xmas food shopping and he's walking next to me on his phone whilst I'm pushing the heavy trolley, same at the tills. I'm full of cold and had to nearly beg him to help me.
He never makes effort to arranging lunch or going out together. I made a reservation for a posh lunch last month which had to cancel as he forgot to book the time off. He never takes holiday as work is too busy, but other people take holiday in his job. I can't rely on him for anything, last month my car broke down and I didn't know what to do so rang him and he didn't answer.( Learnt lesson I do now know what to do and who to call) when he says he will pick kids up he later says he can't so I have to rush my work to collect them.
I can't help but feel insecure and I'm not like this normally but over the last year it's been creeping up on me and hurts my heart.
I'm sorry I'm not good at wording things.