Hello
Sense checking my feeling a tonight as my sister has told me I’m being ungrateful and mean.
I have a tricky relationship with my mother, she shows classic narcissistic traits and I have always felt the need to people please her and I try to never rock the boat.
We’ve exchanged little Christmas gifts today and hers came unwrapped and unpacked in bags, where as mine had nice paper and bows etc. this isn’t important to me, as I understand she doesn’t value that, and I do. That I can put down to a difference in expectation which is think is fair. My point in mentioning that is that I do let lots of things “go” that upset me, but I can see past them as maybe my expectation vs hers.
My present was a small perfume, that has my name on it, but like every Christmas and birthday card I get from her, my name is spelt wrongly on it.
She goes between three spellings of my name.
my birth certificate says one and during my childhood / teenage years my passport
was different, as she said it was another spelling.
My sister says who cares, but it’s so basic to get my name right, mum is fine cognitively and when I have slightly joked about it in the past, she says who cares- it doesn't matter, “you got a card didn’t you.”
Any thoughts on this? 🙌