There have been a few things recently which have been nagging at me because I am worried about my BF's mental health but he keeps dismissing it when I try to raise it. It's been little things, like going on a bender and practically disappearing for over a day without any contact. He is also incredibly short tempered and aggressive at times, and this comes on very suddenly. I have to say that he is not like this with me but I have seen him blow up at others from one second to the next. We had a fight yesterday when we were in the car. He asked me if I ever thought about veering off the road into oncoming traffic. I thought it was a very strange question and told him just that, and that it had never occurred to me. I asked if he had and he said he sometimes did and that he thought it was normal as there was nothing stopping anyone from doing so. It freaked me out and I told him to stop talking about it but he kept going, and I eventually snapped at him because it was stressing me out so much. I was angry at first but wondered about it today and it just makes me feel so uneasy because I'm wondering if he is really struggling with something, or if he was just trying to freak me out.
I don't know enough about mental health or depression to know what might be going on, and how to talk to him properly to maybe convince him to see someone.
Is this something you have heard before, or do you have any advice on how to get through to someone who might be struggling?