I feel punished...after end of tel

[Livelifelaughter]

I had a 10 month relationship, it was committed and serious; his words. Basically he is a commitment phobe. It ended about 8 months ago. Honestly I was broken, I have been divorced but actually this has really really hurt me. We are still on social media but I don't see his notifications as I had those on a block but oddly today I noticed he has unfollowed me but hasn't blocked me. I don't really understand it, he always said proudly how he is friends with all his exes...I can't get my head why this hurts, I don't want to see him, it's too painful but it feels as though I want him to be curious about me and unfollowing someone seems drastic. All my accounts are open accounts so perhaps he is in a new relationship but it makes no sense as I could see the accounts of his exes so that can't be the issue. I feel so hurt , and can't help feeling stupid. I don't know, I just want so advice or perspective.

The truth is you'll never know why he unfollowed you, and knowing won't help you heal. Are you actually upset because it cements the end of your relationship?

The way he boasted about being friendly with all of his exes, that set the bar for you to never call him out on his lack of commitment/avoidance.

What is the feeling that he has taken from you, by doing what he's done? What feeling did it give you, knowing that he was doing that before? He's changed something external to you (his behaviour) and it has affected something internal to you (your emotional state) Think and talk and write (to yourself or to us or to a friend) about what has changed for you internally, emotionally.

Once you work out what's gone, you can work out how to put it back for yourself, rather than relying on him.

@411sleeper I don't know, maybe? I think I always felt he was in control emotionally as in he ended the relationship. I think it's also him trying not to be cold in blocking me. He literally follows all of his exes. It doesn't help me to know, but he also told me more than once that he would always be there for me. I know he blocked and unfriended other people who he felt supported his ex wife, but obviously that isn't me. I hate feeling this way.

I think there's two things. These are just knee jerk reactions..

So one is I want to feel as though we aren't together but I matter. He clearly has some hold on me, I thought he hadn't.

I feel so stupid and hurt...why would you decide to unfollow someone 7 months later...but why should I care. I just feel alone.

I think u should block him for occupying too many of yr thoughts and causing you to over analyse.
He might be sending a signal who knows. But ultimately you are communicating through the medium of figuring out what unfollowing miiiight mean/could mean. That's torture.

Send yourself the message that you're done with all this by blocking him.
Either he will notice. Or he won't.

I am honestly not strong enough...I wish I was .

It takes more strength to live in hope. No hope is easier. Xx
He sounds to me like he spreads himself thinly.

He clearly has some hold on me, I thought he hadn't

He doesn't, except what you give him. You're the boss.

So, it looks like he made you feel like you matter, and that you're not alone, is that right?

@Watchkeys . Yes. You're right on both counts. I have friends. I don't really have family.

I feel as though some emotional mind game is being played. He could have blocked me but he hasn't. But maybe seeing what I do unrattles him . Either way nothing changes.