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Should he have gone to work or stayed with me

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christmasmistletoe · 20/12/2023 12:38

currently going through a miscarriage been come out of hospital and haven’t properly slept for a few days as pain medication is causing insomnia. My partner has been working everyday since we both work together. Woke up today very tearful received a sympathy card in the post and it set me off. I’ve been too unwell to really get sad about it all until now. I’ve been told to rest at home for 2-3 weeks but have been finding it really lonely and I’m so used to being at 100 miles an hour I’m finding it hard to sit still. Today I said I can help him at his one job today and he said no he wouldn’t be going he would go tomorrow. I figured we could maybe go do something nice together instead like get lunch or do some Christmas shopping. He then quickly changed his mind hugged me goodbye and it set me off crying. He left me crying on the bed I know he’s going through it too but it just feels he wants to escape me being upset. What I really want is some distraction. I just want some support.

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CornishGem1975 · 20/12/2023 12:48

I am sorry for your loss. As you've said, he's going through it too and we all deal with things in different ways. I'm a bit like your partner, and I'd want to carry on. I don't like to wallow and need the distraction of work sometimes.

Sitting around for 2-3 weeks at home is going to make you feel even more miserable, can you talk a walk, go and get a hot chocolate etc or a little treat on your own? I know you want his support but there are still things you can do to distract yourself.

christmasmistletoe · 20/12/2023 12:56

Yes I’ve been getting walks in but up until now it’s been painful to walk and I’ve been so heavy I can’t actually leave the house as I’ve been leaking constantly. I’ve been ok alone up until today he’s worked for the last 3 days It just felt very odd like one minute he’s not going to work and then we hug I get upset and he’s off to work and changed his mind

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