Should/ can I tell DHs counselor stuff about DH?

[Kipperties]

..if it might help her help him? My daughter (17) has moved out and is in what seems to be a controlling relationship (there are lots of red flags) and is isolated from everyone and everything she knew before meeting him.My husband blames the boyfriend and has chosen to see a counselor to help him cope .
our daughter told me she left because of DH. Should I tell the counselor ?Would it help the counselor help him? Or am I interfering .He has no idea, and every session ( the bits he shares) seem off track if this is why she left.

Is DH her father? Doesn’t he realise he’s the problem? Can you tell him straight?

Daughter left because of DH in what sense? Did she specify what he did/didnt do that prompted this?

I think services are always open to hearing information about someone who may be at risk of harm but otherwise it's not necessarily useful to have multiple perspectives on what the problem is, unless invited by the client. So what you could do is suggest your husband considers how helpful therapy is and are there any aspects of his relationships to bring up in his sessions.

Hang on, why can’t you just tell him?

Has the counsellor or DH invited you to a joint or solo session?

If not, I doubt the counsellor would listen to you as it would be a breach of the relationship.

I took DH to half a session once as I felt it would be helpful, but I was there, and he said his “piece” in front of me.

No not invited, so am interfering. If I tell DH he’ll be devastated. Thanks!

Although he'd perhaps be devastated, he'd also have counselling support.

Would your daughter be amenable to family therapy?

I’m confused by your posts. Your teenage daughter has moved out into an abusive relationship because of your DH, and what you’re worrying about is how to tell him, in case he’s devastated? Not your daughter’s welfare? Is your DH her father?