Would you leave your partner if you did not particularly like his family or kids?

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Just that really. His parents and siblings are boring most of the time and I don't enjoy visiting. They are also a little culturally ignorant and say offensive things which irks me a little as I am from an immigrant family.

His kids are emotionally draining. They are rude to their father and are always asking for money and things which he gives. Logistics is difficult as there are 2 exes to deal with and their new families. Older kid wants money for surgeries and younger kid has moved to NZ with mother and step family so my partner spends approx 7k on trips for him to visit them. Boundaries with the exes are v weak (with regards to communication and at times emotional dumping) and I try and stay out of it all tbh. I have advised that stronger boundaries might help him but often tell myself that it's not my place to intervene.

I've been with my partner for 4 years now and am becoming ambivalent when considering how many moving parts there are. Alot of it is not his fault, but none are mine either. And the idea of living like this for the next 40 years is not sparking any joy in me.

Some days I wonder if it is easier to just walk away.

Have you felt like this?

I've just reread your OP. So his parents and siblings are boring and bigoted, he has 2 kids by 2 different mother, both of whom are also awful and both his children ( brought up differently presumably as two different mother) are both grabby and awful? Yet he is lovely and you are madly in love with him? He is the common denominator here.

I would never date anyone with kids. Full stop.

Those dc will grow up and have dc. Your dp will forever be enmeshed and guilted from miles away. And I bet his ex still be pulling his strings even then.

Honestly? If you move in with this man, you’ll end up coming after everyone and everything else (except, perhaps, the dog - if you’re lucky). He has a few problems but they are not yours.