Anyone else struggling with a broken heart

[Worried81]

My bf ended our relationship rather abruptly and without any warning at the beginning of the month. We had been together nearly 2 and a half years. I didn't see it coming and I am in so much pain I'm struggling to cope. I had to leave work on Monday afternoon as I can't stop crying. Im not returning until the new year now as im so distressed. I'm not eating or sleeping properly. He collected the last of his things from mine last week he seemed done. He did say a couple of things that have confused me and given me false hope however, I am trying to accept it is over. I have not contacted him since he took his stuff.

I feel I am never going to get over this. I'm in my 40s with 2 children and I'm trying to keep going for them especially over Christmas but I'm struggling. I'm currently tossing and turning in bed unable to sleep going over and over everything in my head.

Please tell me this gets better. I have been here before many times it just feels so much worse this time.

Didn’t want to run but need to sleep.

sending you a big hug and wanted to say I understand how much it hurts. Sometimes men say things to soften the blow. Please don’t accept being breadcrumbed.

is there anyone in RL who can come over and distract you and the kids? Siblings or friends?
Try and make sure you look after yourself and rally your friends around

I feel you. I'm still struggling some days 6 months on. Though it is easier than it was x

@Yellowcakestand 6 months! Gosh I don't think I can feel like this for another 6 days tbh. I'm doing my best to not contact him but every day that passes the urge to contact him gets worse. It won't make any difference if I contact him or not I don't think he'll change his mind. I thought our relationship was really strong he was so consistent right to the end then literally over night it was over.

I’m in the same place as you. My fiance disclosed that he was raped as a 16 year old just as we were about to start our IVF journey and said he needed to sort his head out and finally deal with it. 6 weeks on and he’s moved out and I’m still in a state wondering how on earth my seemingly perfect life has gotten to this point.

I’m really hoping it gets better too 😢

My twenty year relationship ended in September. We have been married 12 years. She just 'fell out of love with me' and directly into love with someone else. It's incredibly painful, some days are harder than others and there have been days I can hardly get out of bed because of how much it hurts. It's like my life and identity have been rewritten without my permission. But it does get better, I'm trying to not be passive in it and taking control of my own life and making choices for me and my daughter that will give us the best life possible. Take care of yourself, be gentle with yourself, talk to someone in real life if you can.

Is this a post divorce relationship for either of you? Ie the first after splitting from your ex’s?

@Hottenan yes he was married divorced while we were together I was single over a year never married but was with him 13 years.