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Dp is pissing me off re his family

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Windmill34 · 19/12/2023 19:14

So it seems this year dp is the friendliest he has ever been with his family since I’ve known him (22 years).
Hes always called his 2 sisters
1 -snapper, mental and hypochondriac
2.- A money grabber, know it all who is evil

Before I met him the 3 of them have never really got on together, 2 of them will side together calling the other one mainly either sister & brother . Some big big arguments

I got friendly with sister 2 similar interests as myself.
I was going through a bad time with dp and confided in her
She didn’t hold back calling him a narcissist,
a user and possibly autistic and very selfish

So that’s back story of them

So July this year there mum who is in a home now was 90, I had covid at the time so couldn’t go.
He was going on if it kicks off I’m walking out etc.

Anyway he comes home with videos of party and how he was talking to niece and her son (12) How clever and informative 12 yr old was
how he reminded him of himself at that age
and he had an intelligent chat with him
How nice niece is, like buming her up the way she was dressed & makeup
I just said that’s what most 30+ girls dress like
hair, Botox lips etc
Since then on 2 occasions he’s lied where he’s been till it didn’t add up and he told me he’d been to her house(niece)
Really going on about her, her bf and niece ds
bf 2 kids, how there lovely girls they luv niece follow her around that type of talk

Anyway, last few nights he’s had he’s phone on silent but typing on phone whilst on laptop
Hes been talking a lot about sister 2, so I guessed it’s her he’s chatting to as it was his mum Xmas party at the home and he was going on Monday
He went and came back later, came in showing me videos of the party and him dancing with the singer that was there.

Today he told me sister was going on a meal with mum & residents to posh golf club for Xmas meal.
later this afternoon sister 2 was sending him pictures from the event and I just said that’s not like you to be corresponding with sister 2 and he was getting friendly again so get ready for the bomb to go off.
He comes out with what’s wrong with me talking to my sister!
I just reminded him of all the previous things that’s been said, arguing etc.Also mentioned
if I said those things about him he wouldn’t let me forget it !
To which he replied
“ bloods thicker than water”

This really pissed me off, if he wants to carry on seeing them he can(no skin of my nose)
but I don’t want to bloody know because I know it will kick off again very soon and I’m sick of hearing it

rant over just needed to write it down stop it going round my head

OP posts:
Throwawayme · 19/12/2023 19:20

It's weird you don't want them to be friendly especially if they've had problems in the past. Are you jealous?

Windmill34 · 19/12/2023 20:29

Throwawayme

No Defiantly not jealous, I’m just so fed up over the last 20+ years of him constantly slacking them off even on the odd time they have rang him he’s not picked up because he can’t be arsed talking shit with them ( his words)it’s worn me down .
It’s not upto me if he wants to be friendly again with them as long as he doesn’t start calling them again. I can’t listen anymore

im annoyed because he would NOT let me forget if I said something and he came out with
bloods thicker than water statement

that hurt

OP posts:
MaggieNextDoor · 19/12/2023 20:31

WTF does this sentence mean?

How nice niece is, like buming her up the way she was dressed & makeup

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