I’ve felt for a while that I’m unhappy in my marriage and that I’m not in love with my husband anymore, although I do love him and I do care about him. He’s a perpetually negative person, he only ever sees the dark side of things, he feels extremely hard done by in every aspect of his life and likes to be a victim. He is miserable but does nothing to change it (our whole 14 years together and prior to that too.) He drinks far too much, I have to do everything for him (order his prescriptions, apply for new jobs for him, all of his life admin basically, these examples really only scratch the surface.) He also doesn’t help out around the house, I have to project manage everything despite also working full time, doing the school runs, doing all the dinner, all the housework. His temper is bad but he’s never violent. Then tonight our daughter who is Audhd is was upset in the bath and he lost his temper, slapped her, pushed her head and called her a c**t. To me this is a line crossed and one you can’t come back from. I’ve just been made redundant, have very little in the bank and nowhere to go and even if I got a job I would really struggle financially. Do I listen to my gut? I feel I’m not strong enough for the emotional upheaval.