When is it acceptable to end a marriage

[CherryGarcia23]

I'm feeling quite resentful about my DH and how he lied about everything when we met.

He lied to me about what he did for job, where he lived, his family, finances, friends, hobbies, it seems like everything. I also made many decisions based on lies he told me, he almost coerced me into making certain decisions. Looking back, he was lying to me purposely to get me to make certain decisions. Big lies which have caused me huge issues. But his life has got better and better since i've been in it.

Theses lies have been found out over the years, and luckily for him Covid and lockdowns gave him the perfect cover up for many things he told me.

The person he made himself out to be just isn't who he is. He was a very convincing, and the longer we are together, the more resentful I am.

We separated briefly last year, we got back together on the proviso he would always be honest and he would attend counselling. I can count 3 fairly big lies since we got back together, and he has never been to counselling, even though he showed me a block of pre booked sessions.

I have spoken to family and friends about this, all of them have told me I need to stay as we have children together. But I feel awful, everyday. We can't even have a conversation now that I am trying to work out if anything he says is true?

What reasons can I give to leave and break the family up?

He’s a proven liar and therefore not trustworthy. That’s all the reason you need and you don’t need to explain yourself to others.

No one should stay unhappily married because of the children. They know, and it affects them.

You've made yourself clear to him on what he needed to do, in order to safeguard the marriage. He chose not to do those things. It is his actions (or lack thereof) which mean the marriage is mow likely to end.

You should (Imo) stand by your word and end it. If you don't, he will continue to do what he has always done, you will grow steadily more unhappy, depriving yourself of a happy life, and your child will learn that this is what a normal healthy marriage looks like.

You are unhappy.

That is genuinely all the reason you need.

The reason is that you deserve so much more. Also - life is too bloody short to let others’ judgement affect your peace and personal happiness.

Everyone else's opinion is irrelevant.
You can leave your marriage for any reason, and your reason is a biggie.

Yes. This has got to be the ONLY correct answer.

There is absolutely no trust in your marriage.

That's a good enough reason.

Oh and be careful divorcing him. Make sure you have collected financial records about his affairs before you kick him out again and start.