Dating apps 2024

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I tried bumble out, BC (before Covid), and it wasn't a total cesspit. This year, I've only heard awful things. I'm thinking of dipping my toe back in the dating pool. What's the best app? Or should I avoid like the plague.

I've just gone back on bumble and it's way better than during the pandemic... I try to go for elegant photos and a positive vibe and am attracting similar serious seeming professional men some of whom have kids too but not all do. I don't have time to keep up with all the conversations at the moment!

Make sure your photos are elegant and get someone to take more -
Avoid drinking filters Halloween costumes etc

Where are you based and how old are you?

If it’s London and you’re in your 30s, then Hinge is by far the best. By which I mean it is the least awful, of course.

40's London. I hear great things about Hinge, but thinking it may be a 20/30's app...

What type of guys (race, height, salary, eye colour, age) do you go for ? If you want a tall white guy with blue eyes that is going to be hard to get regardless of what dating apps you use as those guys are extremely desirable by women.

My friend - early 40s- has been on all of them for the past three years in London and doesn’t think there is much of a difference. She is petite, blond and very attractive and has been on plenty of dates but nothing has stuck past a few dates. I decided to join Hinge a few months ago, have professional photos and have received about 50 likes primarily from people looking for casual sex/short term/figuring out their relationship type and only managed one date which didn’t go anywhere. So I am not sure there is any difference at the end of the day.

I’ve used tinder , hinge and FEELD

all with mixed degrees of success

lolstevelol, that’s a rather depressing view !

id def start with one at a time

@Indifferentchickenwings what specifically is depressing if you do not mind me asking.

What I find strange is the ‘standouts’ section on Hinge which, for people who don’t know, is where you’re sent a handful of profiles of the most desirable men every 24 hours. In the 3 months I’ve been back on the app, I have not seen a single non-white profile. And this is in London, the most diverse city in the country.

I know it’s probably some sort of algorithm, but it was sending me these profiles long before I started matching with anyone.

I wonder if it’s the same for female ‘standouts’.

I don't think any of the apps are great. But get on all of them - it's a numbers game. Make your profile very clear in terms of what you're looking for. Be honest. Don't waste time texting for days or weeks, arrange dates quickly. Meet for coffee for a first date. And date lots of people simultaneously.

Some great advice I heard and took was to make a note about the person before the date - what you think of them, etc. Then make another note after the date. I use my phone and make voice notes. It really helps when you're trying to decide if you want to see someone again, or if they're confusing people.

If you want a tall white guy with blue eyes that is going to be hard to get regardless of what dating apps you use as those guys are extremely desirable by women

this ! It’s a bit aryan dream and not necessarily true

As someone said, it’s purely a numbers game. I had a huge amount of luck on them this year (well in the sense I had a lot of interest and had loads of dates) but honestly all of a sudden the ‘choice’ on all of them is dire! I don’t know what’s happened in the last 2 months! It’s Shocking!

I’m in my 40’s and live just outside of London. Had success with both Hinge and Bumble. Some nice, genuine men on both (and some d1cks, but easy to filter out quickly). Avoid tinder!! There is hope! Go for it!

How did you know the Hinge matches were only looking for something casual?

I’m on Hinge and would love some tips on how to spot the casual fling types! Obviously when they say ‘figuring out my dating goals’ it’s obvious, but most profiles don’t say that (probably because men know women would find it off putting...)

I keep thinking the same, then I decide that I can't be arsed. Bumble, inaccessible not for you but for me, hinge, and the usual candidates, I.E, tinder. POF, desperate dating, awful UI, bloody minefield.

@Crushed23 They either had no goals stated or it was short term or figuring out their relationship type or had had long term but their profile was full of either photos of lots of women or naked shirtless etc photos or zero effort into any prompts/profile. A few also confessed it or send inappropriate photos while messaging.

I’m 50+ living just outside M25 and found Bumble is the best of a pretty bad bunch.
Hinge I never had a single match, POF is full of sleazy creeeps, I’m bizarrely banned from tinder though they won’t tell me why 🤷‍♀️. Worst of all was Ourtime - that’s for over 50’s only and it was the worst £40 I’ve ever spent! An entire rogues gallery of men who’ve seen better days wearing Hi viz vest and staring menacing into the camera giving off Norman Bates vibes. I’m still having nightmares 🤣

If you’re on Facebook that’s worth a try.

My brother met his partner on Bumble. Wish the damn thing was accessible with screen readers. Would also mitigate the need for me to send innumerable PM'S to women. Alas, It's pants.

Debating getting back on them again - was talking away to a guy before xmas. He told me if he wasn't in touch over xmas much, he wasn't ghosting me.. but not a word till I reached out and he said he would call me.. of course, he didn't. Trying to remain strong and not contact him again!

So going back on Bumble again.. found that best overall to be honest! any other recommendations -am in Ireland, Dublin.

Avoid POF! I signed up yesterday. First message asked if I like younger men with massive c**ks. And the standard didn’t really improve

I lasted less than 24 hours before I deleted

White(specifically natural blondes and light eyes), slim younger women are also very popular.