Can’t tell if I have ruined this for myself, I’ll try to keep this as brief as possible…
Met a guy through bumble, we were chatting for a week prior to our first date on a Saturday night. The chat was great, plenty to talk about, lots in common, a lot of texting back and forth all day. He said he was looking for a relationship and to settle down (as am I).
Date was amazing, I definitely felt a connection! We did drink a lot, and I ended up back at his, that wasn’t planned, and I do feel ashamed of it… we said we would go out bowling as a second date the following Tuesday.
Got home on the Sunday, the chat was ok that afternoon/evening but I sensed something could be off.
Monday didn’t hear from him til 7pm (we would usually be messaging from about 8 in the morning), he said he’d had a busy day. I gave him the benefit of the doubt.
On the Tuesday morning I messaged about 8ish to ask what time he wanted to meet at the bowling. I didn’t hear back til 4pm to say he couldn’t make it now as he doesn’t know when he will finish work.
I said, ah ok let’s leave it for tonight. He said his work is going to be mad busy right up till Christmas. So I said ok, let’s catch up in the new year or something. He replied ‘we don’t have to wait that long’ with a laughing emoji. I didn’t reply back. I’ve not heard since.
I know it was me who didn’t reply again, but he was basically saying he has no time for weeks. Have I got this wrong? I’m finding the dating a real struggle to navigate at the moment, and I don’t trust my own judgment at times. I have deleted his number and the WhatsApp chat, so not able to message him again.
Thank you for reading