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Am I overreacting?!

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Cupcakes77 · 17/12/2023 21:24

I have been married to my husband for 2 years and we have a 6 month old little boy. Husband has recently started a new business and has been getting on with that alongside his main job. I do everything around the house, cooking, cleaning, raising our son, laundry etc. I have also started helping him pack orders that come through and take them out to post whilst he's at work. He moans if I muddle up his breakfast, he groans if i haven't done the laundry or if I've missed something. He never ever has a nice thing to say to me or about me! I wear something new he says nothing I cut my hair he says nothing. No matter what I do it's never good enough! We had an argument the other night where he so effortlessly listed my faults and I wondered you are so quick to say i'm miserable and whatnot yet you have never thought to say anything nice to me or show appreciation or compassion towards me. His excuse is oh this is what I am like I don't vocalise things like that- yet he vocalises negativity quite easily!

I feel like he just expects me to always be there and that i'll just help him no matter what and do my 'wife duties' regardless. I even help him with his packing till whatever time at night, and he had the audacity once to tell me oh you are going too slowly hurry up when I was stood up packing for 2 hours!

Today I had enough and snapped at him, am I overreacting? Or is it normal that a husband never has anything nice to say to or about his wife?

Sorry if I am rambling...🙃

OP posts:
talkwalkyman · 18/12/2023 23:26

Not overreacting. Affection and the expression thereof is absolutely needed if you're a human being, period. I'd start with a very calm conversation when you both have time, it sounds like stressful period anyway.
Rather than: "you dont" or "you never"
Start with "I". "I'm lonely, I feel unappreciated, not valued etc and this is how it makes me feel."

And see what comes out from his side.

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