New mum and always alone. Any advice

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I have recently had my first child from being in a long term relationship.

DP goes out most weekends, we rarely do anything together. Any event seems a reason for him to leave and go to the pub while I’m at home in with the baby. I have told him it’s not acceptable. He does 2 hobbies per week which are followed with drinking.
When we have plans they seem to either be cancelled or somehow involve seeing his friends.
He does have a nice side and we get. But I am constantly alone AIBU to think a relationship shouldn’t be like this?
I am really stuck what to do. It feels like his life is still with his friends and not me as we are not a priority.
I don’t know what to do I’m so lonely. I adore my child, I am spending my life waiting for him to come home and never make my own plans as I want to be together as a family.

Any advice is appreciated x

I am spending my life waiting for him to come home and never make my own plans as I want to be together as a family.

Well, that's not working out for you - so you need to stop waiting for him to match your expectations and get doing things for yourself. You need your own social circle and your own life - as otherwise you're going to continue to be very lonely and sad.

He might start valuing your time and attention more if you're not there all the time and are off doing your own thing. He's complacent and selfish.

Since talking to him hasn't worked so far, arrange some things for yourself to do with the baby without him, and also go off for a day or weekend and leave him with the baby - stop being the default carer all the time.

To be honest, your partner souns slightly immature, focusing on going out with his mates perpetually, nothing at all wrong with this in moderation, but not all the time.

Perhaps you need to take some form of action to make it clear how seriously this is affecting you.

Has he just started doing things on his own since your baby? How did you spend your evenings and weekends before baby came along? Either he has changed for the worse, not changed his life at all, or maybe you were always lonely in this so had a DC to fill your life - it happens. We're there any signs before?