From my sibling and their spouse.
They’ve rung me 57 times since 9am, from their phones and 2 unidentified numbers. I didn’t answer any of them so they’ve also sent me over 100 texts, again some from unknown/unidenti numbers, others from them. They’ve also done it to my friends social medias as they’re blocked on mine.
The context of this is, I live 5 minutes away from both my parents (they’re divorced for over 15 years) and sibling thinks I don’t do enough for said parents. Basically thinks I should pack up my house and move in with them, when I already do loads including taking them to all appointments (and theres a lot of them, dad has 4 medical conditions and mum has 2 on top of the normal dentist/opticians), I also cook for them both, and look after their pets when they go away.
Parents are only late 50s, capable of working part time but don’t because they're "too old and ill" neither claims anything as job centre told them they're capable of working and I agree they are - they can both work, drive and manage their own food and money they just choose not to. I’m a single parent to a DC with some disabilities and have another DC (different dads), but this doesn’t exempt me from helping them according to both sibling and spouse. I work part time as well. And sibling thinks I’m childish and immature because I won’t move in with either of my parents therefore uprooting my DC. I also apparently use my DCs disability as an excuse - DC has a mobility issue, an issue that causes falls and struggles with sleep (not ASD or ADHD) which means that they're struggling at school atm.
My ExH isn’t allowed unsupervised contact with DC, there is a CAO to state this so he sees disabled DC once per month. Younger DC sees their dad twice a week and every Saturday but never overnight. But apparently I should be forcing their dads to have them more and again it’s an excuse.
Sibling and spouse are childless and work full time they also live with Spouses parents so they say my situation is comparable to theirs and I just need to “ask for more help from their dads and my friends”. My parents agree with my sibling and think I should be doing more. Sibling and spouse never help parents with anything, they turn up once a month to each (so twice a month) usually on a Sunday and always wonder why there’s no dinner – they expect me to make that to.
It’s the second time I’ve had to report them this year. This time it’s because I’m working over Christmas and using childcare but apparently I should be dropping everything to help them move house – they think I can just tell work I’m not doing the shift anymore and work will cope – but I told them I’d work these shifts in September and baring a DC being ill I’d rather not let them down, these shifts are optional which is why sibling thinks I can drop everything.
*details changed deliberately to hide my ID as I have discussed this IRL but the basics are the same, my sibling is harassing me.