online relationship

[Flute56]

I recently got chatting to a bloke online. He seemed very nice and not the usual kind of online bloke. He was polite, and he does not drink or smoke. He does not believe in casual sex. He is basically looking for a wife. I showed him my photo and he said he liked the look of me and that i was a nice person. I saw his photo and I did not fancy him. Even though he is the perfect gentleman I did not like the way he looked and could not see myself growing to like him

I therefore told him we were not suited and he said shame but ok

The end.

And?

What's your point?

I met my husband online and when I first saw his picture I was like eh, don't fancy him. Still chatted to him though (as we met through a hobby), got to know him and things grew from there. Yes I fancy him now. We've been married for over a decade.

It's a Saturday night in December. Instead of talking to men on online dating websites, or to parents on a parents website, why don't you go out and enjoy yourself? Genuine question.

This is a total non issue. I think it’s important if you do find the person you want to be with, attractive, whether it’s meeting them in person or online.

Personally someone who never drinks ever wouldn’t be for me.

I met someone a couple of years out who told me he didn’t like eating when he was out, so if we were out eg at a pub, he couldn’t do it, or we couldn’t go out for a meal. We tried it once but he was very awkward. Another man I dated briefly he only liked certain food, meat and Greek/Cypriot food as he was from that culture, rarely ate salad or fruit. Preferred his mum’s cooking. We did go to a Pret A Manger and we had French bread sandwiches but he said he felt awkward as it wasn’t eating out he was uncomfortable with, just the food! It really limited what he ate! So two extremes of strange men where I didn’t take things further!

And.....?

Err? Well. Good. Glad that's sorted then. NEEEEEXTTTTTT....

My advice to you would be to

Ok. That seems like a very neutral online interaction. You chatted, you were attracted to him and told him and he accepted it.

Well done?

You recognized that physical attraction is a priority for you, and since you weren't attracted to him it was a dealbreaker.

It is a good thing that you were open and honest with him, and that you ended things.

It was best to end things, not lead him on, and not try to force yourself to become accepting of this.

It wouldn't have worked out. Please don't backtrack to him if you are unable to find a suitable healthy relationship.

Continue to respect your preferences and boundaries.

Thank you for sharing.

Roll credits?

The bloke who chatted to me online told me he would move to my area if we got on. He currently lives 4 hours away. I said what about work and your home. He said well I can get a job near you and then he said how big is your property I said why so he said i was wondering if it was big enough for me to move in with you. I said do you own and he said yes so i said why could you not sell up and buy somewhere near me and he said its too expensive