Abuser ex thinks I am his social secretary!

[AlisonMoyetz2]

Currently going through Court proceedings with the man.
He has very limited contact with DD currently that is in a contact centre. I despise the man but so far to date have taken her to every single session and adhered fully to the court order. That's all I need to do in my eyes.

DD is now in reception. Ex demanded the name of the school, I was forced to disclose by the Court. The court ordered that I put his name down as a contact at school.
Gave school the details I was provided.

Ex has missed parents evening despite school going out of their way to offer him a separate session to me.

Ex has missed the nativity despite being notified of the date almost 3 months in advance.

School have NEVER heard from ex. Ever.

I have now received a sh*tty letter from his Solicitors to mine to advise me that I must inform him of all of school events at least 3 weeks in advance so he can get time off and to advise him of when parents evening is.

He also wants updates from me regarding her development/education.

I MUST?

The man is demented

This is someone who does no actual parenting and cannot even be bothered to pick up the phone to school. He takes no interest whatsoever in DD's life, in her education, he doesn't know what extra curriculars she does, does not know the name of any of her friends, I am fairly even sure he doesn't even know the school she goes to is a faith school!

I cannot force the man to be a parent, all I can do is stick to the court order.

I am SO aggrieved by this letter I have received this morning, but will take the time to calm down and ask my Solicitor to send a calm and measured response to advise that it is not my responsibility to inform the father of DD's school information and it his responsibility to contact the school directly

For context, ex and I only communicate via Solicitors, he is blocked on everything - I had a restraining order on him as he stalked and harass me..

I had to move 100 miles away to get away from him and no distance will ever be far enough.

Just a rant really.

Is anyone's ex like this?

Honestly. It is totally batshit. I've calmed down since😅😅

I'd take no notice

Years ago,my narc ex and had spilt up-he tried the same shit with me

I had letters telling I wasn't allowed to move house (the house was a 2 bed and 4 of us living there-me and 3 kids),I wasn't to do my shopping at tesco as his sister worked there and it was 'upsetting' her (we didn't speak as she's a silly cow),i wasnt allowed a passport for any of them in case i ran off with the kids (he didnt want me to go on holiday-he went at least 4 times a year),i wasnt allowed to take them to the park (nowhere near his house but id been seen there)and wanted full say (and me none) over nursery/schools (the ones he chose where 10+ miles away-he wasnt going to do drop off/pick up)

The best one was the toy dog

I opened my door one day,and almost fell over two black bags of soft toys (couldn't afford to pay for his kids,but could pump money into one of those toy grabber machines) and to impress his new girlfriend,he'd won loads and dumped what she didn't want on my doorstep

Of course dd fell in love with a soft toy dog and named him barney

Barney came everywhere with us-he was part of the family (most parents will know what I mean)

He got wind of this and sent loads of shitty letters ('cos after all its free innt?') demanding barney back-i ignored the lot and we went back to court

I swear I saw the judge die a little bit inside when she saw what she was dealing with

She told him in no uncertain terms that barney belonged to dd-no matter who'd bought him (loads of howls of protest and threats on the steps of court),he was to stop dragging me to court over nothing or he would feel her anger and not long after,narc ex lost interest and gave up (thankfully)

The same judge took great pleasure in cutting off his pr a year later (I'm still the bitch who stopped him seeing his kids)

To this day I'm still his possession but I just laugh at him-he's pathetic

Oh and now the kids are now adults-its all my fault they don't want to know him

Of course he's blameless in all this...