Parents dangerous dogs now no contact

[Sparklesun]

Hello , I just wanted everyone’s opinions whether I’m aibu?

Long story short (ish , sorry!) when my dd was 2 I briefly moved back in with my parents they had a jack Russell type dog at the time I known the dog and he was protective of family but never aggressive towards any of us. Anyone one day he was in the kitchen I stupidly let him in the living room to clean up toast crumbs something he had done many times without issues. My dd was on the floor anyway before I knew it the dog had bitten my dds face on cheek under eye . A few cm higher she would have lost her eye.
My dad said they would need to put the dog down he was getting on abit and probably going senile. My mum refused wasn’t getting rid of her dog Etc , it was my fault for letting the dog in the room.
We fell out for abit and I moved out but stupidly kept the relationship going.
A few years later the dog died I was happy and didn’t care one bit, my mother didn’t like that.

Other factors and the the relationship with parents strained but still contact etc.

Fast forward a couple of years ago my dd is now 11 and ds 4 , parents get a chihuahua puppy .
Dog isn’t too bad as a puppy however since one year one he was aggressive if they visited the dog would growl and go for my dd. They gave no training to the dog and refuses to ever since . After a few months of this behaviour and the dog bit a stranger ( stranger sadly didn’t report to police but only the manager where it happened and the dog since banned from the amusement establishment where it happened) ,
myself and my partner told them the dog isn’t welcome in our home . If they want to put him in garden or a crate to visit that’s ok but my mum refused . Just for added info parents live 3 hours away so dog is always with them when they visit their holiday home in our town . They refuse to leave the dog in holiday home and she treats the dog like a baby.

I’ve since gone no contact for this reason and other reasons it makes me sad and angry they’ve put a dog above grandchildren and worse so they won’t get any training for the dog who is now almost 4.

I do often think of years ago how it was my fault my dd got bit luckily she’s now a happy teen and no scar etc not scared of dogs .

Any thoughts on this I appreciate thank you

No you are not being unreasonable. If you wanted to see them would they meet without the dog?

It's unbelievable that they would put their grandchildren at risk of getting bitten.

No they won’t meet without the dog. The relationship has broken down completely now and no contact . A couple of times my dad would pop in visit when in the area, whilst my mother & the dog waited in car but it was a 5/10 min visit and since stopped too.
I find it very difficult how a person would choose a dog over grandchildren. My children are wonderful so it really is my parents loss.

You’ve made your choice and they’ve made theirs. I’m not sure what you are asking.

I'd be quite disgusted at grandparents putting a dog before their grandchildrens safety! Wtf is wrong with your mum?!

As a loving and responsible mother you had no other choice.

Try not to dwell on it, they sound bonkers.

You've posted this before I remember this it's almost word for word I'm sure, especially your update.

The previous one wasn't just about the dogs it was also that you thought they should give you money and you got less favourable responses then about what your parents owed you and you said you were going no contact with them.

What advice are you looking for? I’d have a word with your mum. Tell her what she’s giving up.