Would you be offended if your partner wrote you a love letter that was AI generated?

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My DP gave me a handwritten letter for our anniversary, lovely words but I suspected it was ChatGpT because it does not really sound like him. At the v least some of it was AI generated. I even asked CHatGPT to write a letter and gave a few details and the bloody thing churned out something similar, which confirmed my suspicions . Partner uses CHATGpt lots for work so he's very familiar with it.
Partner denies using it at all.

I didn't get a card and the cards he normally gives are cute and cheesy with a sweet message that I know came from him. So he was upset I preferred a card over a hand written letter (It wasn't the card per se that I missed, but the message that I know he meant, whereas 3 pages of flowery language didn't feel personal to me)

So a part of me is a little upset as I am conflating AI with lack of effort and care, but another part of me thinks people borrow lyrics and poems and that Hallmark built their entire business putting words in peoples mouths so try to shake this off and be reasonable about it.

What do you all think?

Even if it was generated by ChatGPT, it is only a tool that helped him put his feelings in a better format. As you said, you have to give a prompt. Maybe he was insecure on how to phrase it.
Don't fight on the wording, focus on the meaning.

No. I'd find it funny.
I'd take the piss for the rest of our lives though.

Watch the South Park episode!

I think I'd find it funny. It's really hard to write a genuine heartfelt letter and AI is very tempting. The bit that would bother me is lying about it, that's not ok.

Which episode? And where?

Offended? No. Tbh I'd find the letter thing deeply cringeworthy anyway, and the fact that he'd used AI pathetic. Fortunately dh would entirely agree with me!

Well, he didn't write it did he?

It's a bit soulless...

I don't see the point in it. It's not heartfelt if a computer churned it out. Computers don't have hearts.

When someone quotes lyrics or poetry to express their feelings they don't usually deny it, so I don't think it's the same. I'd be pretty underwhelmed by an AI love letter, though I suppose he gets a little credit for hand writing it.

I'd be concerned he couldn't write one himself, and offended that he didn't bother spending his time to write it, that I wasn't worth that.

He tried to do a nice thing for you!

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It’s weird he doesn’t realise why this feels so utterly soulless to you.

My DH does that, its sweet. Hes not a fluffy chap and struggles with words. So its still thoughtful. If he sees videos or quotes that remind him of me or us he will forward those to me too. Some people struggle with expressing and putting things into words, i think its lovely that they can have a tool to enable their romantic intentions.

What is with all these threads about AI tonight?

No he didn't, that's the point. Bung a few words in and it churns out a response.

Hardly any effort involved.

Yes, I'd be offended. A lazy and cynical thing to do, especially if he denies it - disrespectful. Talk about phoning it in! I'd rather get one original sentence than a load of AI toss.

I wouldn't be happy. Especially with the lying.

I'd far rather a short note they'd written, than a long letter from a computer.

Half the time when I send a greetings card I google about what I could write in it. I don’t see how this is that different.

Or as the OP says when you browse what different cards have written in them and choose one that fits the person/relationship. Her DH must have agreed with what came out or he wouldn’t have written it.

I think poorly of anybody using AI to write anything. This is just soulless crap without meaning, a letter from a machine using statistical analysis to create something that's meant to sound realistic to you. There's no human emotion or feeling in it, let alone specifically feeling from your partner towards you. It's worse than generic.

Id find it funny, but my DH would only do it as a joke. If he tried to pass it off as his own work in all seriousness I'd be annoyed.

If you were looking to set up a menage a trois with ChatGPT, it might be okay, but otherwise I would prefer DP to use his own natural 'love language'. If that's fashioning you an anniversary macrame plant hanger in his shed, or whatever, so be it.

I used ChatGPT to write my husband a rap song about his snoring. It was very funny in a very lame / robotic sort of way.

I can't imagine ChatGPT managing to do sincere romance.

He did something nice for you, and quite frankly I wouldn’t be expecting him to share any emotions with you moving forward. You suspect it’s AI, but can’t be sure, why couldn’t you have taken his sentiment and feelings for you and just let it drop? For some people maybe it helps to get their thoughts ordered better, I don’t know, I’ve never used it, but the thing that feels soulless to me, is your response to it.

Half the time when I send a greetings card I google about what I could write in it.

Really?! I can't imagine ever doing that!